[Dictation] How to stop being unconfident?
💡 英语听读练习《如何停止不自信? - by Better Ideas》。
推书《The Comfort Crisis》by Michael Easter。If you ever feel like you’re super lazy, and you’re just like complacent in life, you’re too comfortable, you’re stuck in a rut, read this book. It’ll kick you out of that rut.
It’s no secret that we spend a lot of time and effort trying to appear confident on the surface when we’re around other people. Because we kind of have no choice. People are extremely judgemental whether they’re aware of it or not. Sizing people up is an evolutionary mechanism.
当我们与其他人相处时会花大量时间和努力来试图让我们表现的自信。因为我们似乎别无选择。不管人们是否意识到,他们都是非常擅长评头论足。对他人进行估量是一个进化机制。
When we appear confident and self-assured, people subconsciously place us higher on their social hierarchy. This is why it matters how you dress, the strength behind your voice, and your posture when you enter a room. All of these things contribute tremendously to how people end up treating you. But the weird thing is so many of us feel a huge disconnect between the person that we’re trying to appear in the world as and who we actually are as a person. Because no matter how meticulously we groom ourselves, or how obsessively we keep up with the latest trends, or how quip-y and clever our manner of speech is, the whole thing ends up feeling like a giant facade. Like we’re just putting this show on, we’re not actually confident, we’re slapping makeup on a pig.
当我们表现出自发的自信时,人们会在潜意识中将我们放在更高的社交阶层上。这就是为何你的着装、你的声音都力量和你进入一个房间的姿态的重要所在。所有这些事情都极大地影响了人们如何对待你的方式。但奇怪的是,我们中的大部分人都觉得,我们想要表现出来的人格和我们实际的人格之间存在巨大的脱节。因为无论我们如何精心包装自己,无论我们如何痴迷于紧跟最新的潮流,无论我们的谈吐多么风趣聪明,最终这一切都像是一个巨大的假象。就好像我们一直在演戏,实际上没有自信,也只能打肿脸充胖子。